THE FACTORS INVOLVED IN CHANGE
AND IN NOT CHANGING

(Not quite finished, but usable)

Note that the ability to or the lack of ability to are based on the same factors as addictive behaviors.  Addiction is what probably is the key factor in people struggling.  So, if you're having difficulty changing, you are probably an addict of what it is that needs to be changed.

If you truly want to change, you need to follow the process for changing.  This means you need to start off learning about change, so that you can see what needs to be done and what is realistic or unrealistic.  It is all about learning and then using the right strategy - it is not about willpower, character, how smart you are, how "good" you are or any of that BS - it is about strategy!

It is much harder on a person to "not change" than it is to "change" to get the results in life that make like easier and more workable. 

If a person is subject to alot of the inhibiting factors, then it is imperative that the person stop the merry go round - and engage in correcting the deficient learning in too many areas of life - so that he can manage his life for effectiveness and happiness.




FACTORS


Learning how things work
Learning how to work things
Clear on the benefits and costs - on both sides
  Identified, establish emotional "why"s and
      intensity
Follow the change process and not stop short
FACTORS INHIBITING CHANGE

Note that not all of these have to be solved, as we just need to switch "the balance".  See The Law Of Numbers And Strength.   See and use the checklist on How Not To Change - How To Keep Going Where You're Going. 

Circle those that might be true for you.  Then alter the big ones until you've change the balance of power so that you will be capable of effectively changing.

Doing the work
   Insufficient work, stopping short
   Inadequate diligence
   Unscheduled, tries to do it "in between" other
      things or at random, not an appointed time
   Busyness
       Overload
       The inability to self manage, evaluate priorities
            and impacts and importance
        Inability to anticipate and plan
   Lack of energy

Motivation
   The "Whys" are not clear
   Momentum interrupted, so no attention
   Some big fear factor is in the way, not identified

Mindset
   Uncoachable
   Refuses to be accountable 
   Habit of not changing - his/her "way"

Responsibility
   Stays in victim
   Has excuses, "reasons why not"
   Complains about the effects but does nothing
       about it (called a "racket")
   Does not solve problems expeditiously, keeps
       them, perhaps "hoping" things will be ok

Decision-making
    Lack of ability to decide, weigh pros and cons
    Lack of sufficient knowing on how to decide well
    Using an incomplete process (decision process is
        the same as the problem-solving process)

Strategy, skills
   Poor strategy
   Poor skills
   Emotional regulation (reactivity)

Knowledge
    Insufficient knowing
        Insufficient study on change
        Not understanding nuance, process, effects

Assessment:
   Hasn't focused long enough to figure things out
   Unable to see the consequences or unable to
        properly evaluate the impact of the  
        consequences

Unrealistic expectations on how one can get by without the change and/or expecting it will change by itself.

Awareness, clarity
    Not being in touch with what is going on
    Deny the effects
    One makes oneself "confused", obscuring what is
        going on in the present with no time to clarify
        and lots of emotion getting in the way.
 
Lack of focus and depth (= "ADD")
    Inability to focus
    Too many distractions, glittery objects
   Too much anxiety
    Trying to keep too many things in the air
         Activities
         Concerns, worries (approval, not making
               mistakes

 
FACTORS IN "SEEING"

Not knowing enough
   Naivete
Attention deficit - Can't focus long enough to look and write it out.
     Too distracted in one's mind, worries,   
        attention to too many factors (approval, not
        make mistakes, anxiety, etc.
     Too many things going on