WHAT IS OF WHAT VALUE TO ME?
MAKING MY PRIORITIZED LIST TO GUIDE ME THROUGH MY LIFE
DIFFERENT VALUES FOR DIFFERENT PEOPLE, DIFFERENT AGES
Of course, you'll have a different value for some, or many of these. But this is my proposed version.
Of course, if you make this up when you are 7 years old, it might not be true for your adult life, as Barbie dolls and fire engine toys might be something you grow out of. And love from your parents will change in value (at least in terms of "necessity").
And then as an adult you may think that certain things have a certain value and when you actualy do them you find out that the value is different. The value of partying and getting peer approval and drinking alot may not what you estimated. Or you'll even find out that the value of reaching a goal might be very little, because our prediction of the effect on how we feel is not at all accurate.
VAGUENESS BEGETS POOR RESULTS
Because we often are vague and/or have not spent time determining what actually produces value (or noticing what doesn't), we often need input or suggestions from those who may know better (i.e. they have experienced what is of value AND have lived a good life of value).
The better we do this, and the earlier in life we do it, the better our lives will turn out - if we state them clearly and definitively.
THE RESULT IS ALWAYS TO BE MEASURE IN "NET VALUE"
All that matters, of course, is what the "net" value is. The "net" is of course how far ahead we actually are after subtracting the negative units from the positive units obtained from an action/activity. It's a bit like a measure of personal "revenue" (benefits) received minus the personal costs of time and effort and/or feeling bad - which results in "personal net profit".
And, of course, there are things of some "value" that will be temporary and some things that will be more long lasting so that their value accumulates. Isn't lasting value more valuable than soon-disappearing not lasting value? Of course, some short term value is better than a short term zero.
AND, some things will keep on giving value over time, such as gaining a skill that in turn will allow me to produce more of value than I would have if I did not have the skill. This is akin to "a gift that keeps on giving".
THE INTERMEDIATE GOAL IS NOT "THE DESIRED END PRODUCT"
Some skills will produce dollars, but dollars in the "life game" are not the "end product". The "end product" is what those dollars will buy us in terms of units of "life value" (life benefit).
And the end "life value" to different people is, of course, different.
A fancy car may have very few units of life value to a particular person than it will to another - at least at first glance. If Person A gets a big mental boost from the pride of driving a fancy car, he may get more value than another person who does not need approval from others or find it of much value. And Person A may find that the "pride" and the feeling of newness wasn't really lasting and of real value, but just a passing benefit of feeling better for awhile. And if Person A later realizes that he could have (or "should have") spent his money or time elsewhere to create, say, better relationships or better skills, then A might also experience some "negative" units of regret or some other 'bad' feelings. (So the negative units, of course, would be subtracted, to reduce the "net" value in total.)
