THE "HUMAN NEEDS"
ADJUSTED FOR REALITY
rough draft at this point, but a central piece to understand...you can get the idea...
Since we do not just mechanically only fill our need, we also attribute "negative" meaning to those sensations (chemicals, etc.) that "come upon us" that we believe our threatening our survival. However, we misconstrue (misconscrew?) and misinterpret what is an actual threat and what is not an actual threat to our survival. If it is not an actual threat and we can adjust our thinking and let our danger signaling system know and understand that, we will eliminate the need for the primitive system to give us negative, motivating chemicals of discomfort. Interestingly, we also give ourselves more negative chemicals when we feel the negative chemicals from something, as we add a sense of alarm and meaning to it - such as "I should't be feeling this" or "ohmigod, ain't it awful that I feel discomfort (scared, weak, etc.)
then we assess that in terms of total value...positive or negative and assess how well our lives are going.
how I impress other and have worth saves me from the jungle...
The point of all of this is that we make much ado about it all but it, per se, inately, is meaningless - and we no longer need to make ourselves suffera bout it.
Why would you want to feel the sting of disapproval if it had no real value to you in reality - we give things false value
We see other people value it in our society so we copy, without thinking...
There is only discomfort that is meaningless, let it slide by as no big deal...
allthough we create meaning through a mechanical brain, it could be said that meaning is the only thing about humans that is non-mechanical, as it is, in a sense, spiritual, existing in the "ethereal" space of "out there" (though it's really just exising in our minds)....
OK, SO THAT'S THE THEORY, NOW HERE'S WHAT I FEEL I NEED...
Since, as we've noted elsewhere, we probably, as humans, will not completely change and/or readjust to what is true, then there will be some "faux" needs left in my brain.
Based on these "remainders" or "residuals", then my wants and "tend towards" (attracted to), as I sense them, even with my rational thinking intact, are still:
To have
A sense of safety (and certainty)
the stimulation of being around other people,
to receive a smile from somebody who cares (a stranger's smile does not have much effect on me),
A hug feels good
Somebody focussing on me and finding me good to be with - tribal...
to be amused,
to not have to be anxious (there is a physical basis for this!),
to have a sense of power, of efficacy over life (and certainty)
To regard myself very well (as that is the opposite of fear)
I will safer and more secure if I have the skills for surviving well, so developing my key life and power skills is beneficial.
I am not "above it all", as some people might conscrew it, but I have "stepped aside", stepped outside the box, become a "witness" to what is going on and thereby I do not need to buy into the myths and beliefs that are simply not true. So, now I can focus on that which is "real", which has real legitimacy to create that which is of value to me (that which I have created in my mind as being valuable). (Seeing someone as "above it all" is a social status defense, actually a put down or "you're being different and you're full of BS and superiority and I don't feel good around you as I'm not 'safe' and respected nor are you similar to me and I can't trust you".)
