SELF CONVERSATION CORRECTION
EXAMPLE OF THE USE OF THE SIMPLE BELIEFS CHANGE FORM
Follow this simple format for recording the sentences in your internal conversation and then to begin processing them to form new beliefs. Get help to polish these off, as we should not leave unsolved false beliefs in place!
This conversation and its responses are exactly the same as presented in a different format in ABCDEF Rational Self Analysis, which you can link into via Belief Processing Forms, Directory And Links. You can indent all the objective observer comments totally in indented alignment or simply number the original sentences and put the comments under each of them. (The example is a simplified one, as we could go deeper on all of these and even do a whole analysis and correction on each of the individual incorrect beliefs.
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0. She distanced herself from me.
OBJ: (This is really an opinion and not an objective observation.)
Correction: She appeared to stop talking, be less expressive, had a frown on
her face…
So,
1. She must not like me.
OBJ: She must basically like me, because she has been with me. She may be upset with something I said and her thought process may cause her to attribute a lot of things to me and/or she could go into a victim mode but those are all due to her and not to me. I will apologize and express understanding and attempt to do all I can, and it will turn out how it will turn out.
2. I’ll be in a fix without her.
OBJ: No, I am a capable human being. I can get along fine without her, though I’d prefer to be with her.
3. I don’t know if I can be happy without her.
OBJ: Again, I am capable of setting things up so that I can be happy. I need only choose that.
4. She makes sure we are out there doing things that are stimulating.
OBJ: And, I can awaken that part of me. I am certainly capable of doing that.
5. And without her I won’t have that stimulation.
OBJ: As above
6. And I’ll be so lonely and probably depressed.
OBJ: Only if I so choose. I am capable of sitting and thinking of things to do that are stimulating.
7. And if I fail here again, it will just prove that I am unlovable and incompetent at this
game.
OBJ: Basically, all of us are lovable from the start. We may place things in the way at times. And also there may be others who are not capable of loving us. And it may be true that we may make choices that are not good. Basically, I do the best I can within the limits of my awareness and I am never static, so all I need to do is choose to increase my awareness – it is never the “I” that is the problem, it is just the awareness.
8. Etc. – write each down, possibly use babbling writing to get it all out.
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Summary comments from my original self: So, I guess I did mindreading, which of course is not a valid indicator of facts!
She probably likes me. But it doesn't matter alot for my survival, as I can be happy on my own, and I am not dependent on her. I can always take care of myself, no matter what.... (several of these can be converted to affirmative declarations).
Lessons learned:
My new beliefs (which then go to your beliefs list, kept in your Reminders Notebook,to be repeated and "installed".):
My declarations: ("What I declare to be true is...!", " What I will now do is...!" Or "What my life will now be like!")
How I feel now: Before, I felt: Now I feel:
What I will do next to close the loop even further:
My emotional goal for future similar happenings: To feel centered and to look at this objectively as just an event to handle, for I am totally capable of handling my life and choosing.
I do not feel confused, just concerned enough to do something about this. I step back and write or address this more completely so that I can assure myself of greater clarity. If I still need more clarity, I ask for assistance or do more clarifying type of exercises.
