WHAT THE VALUABLE HAPPY LIFE LOOKS LIKE FOR ME
MY PICTURE OF MY FUTURE
While this is my view of what a valuable happy life would be, as tweaked for my uniqueness, it is also now pretty close to the actual life I am living. Part of the contribution portion is still to be completed, which I hope to do but accept that I might not have the time to do it all - so I need to add from my planning and learning a way to magnify what can be done to help many more people and to change the world - and to effectively implement that. I will have a happy life in the doing and seeking of that, for the valuing of my life is not contingent on any one thing happening. I feel non-contingent happiness and satisfaction with my life - and I smile at the thought that the journey was worth it, along with all the seeking.
This is what I choose to experience and what are the experiences I get value from:
Contributing, seeing people be better off
Contributing to others I enjoy writing up what I think will inform and improve others' lives. I feel especially good whenever they improve their lives as a result of my having contributing something.
Loving
The flow of love to M, visiting her for the weekend, walking together, watching videos mostly about good things human beings do and what can make the world a better place (selected YouTube channels and TED plus other ones I'm clued into).
I accept all people regardless of their level of awareness, though I choose not to be around what is not high level caring and personal morality.
Enjoying
Traveling (sharing the experience is a bonus)
Entertainment, being informed, learning
Watching some internet flicks, mostly the inspiring ones.
Watching high quality TV (on M's TV, since mine is dropped) Charlie Rose The
Weekend, Fareed Zakaria, PBS Newshour on Friday (with David Brooks
commentary and insights), 60 minutes. Superb performances such as The
Oscars, some on PBS.
Relationships
Associating with my brother and my sister and a few other people in my life, such as relatives whenever that occurs, and my special "philosophical" humanitarian friend and another friend of sorts who is a great fellow who I've done lots of work for. Seeing some people occasionally whom I appreciate for their values and their caring about life. I really don't need to associate with alot of people, nor get recognition, though it all feels good (doesn't mean as much since I am not at all dependent on it). I limit my relationships/friends to very few and of only the highest quality.
Physical
Exercising and the good feeling I get from that, not only at the time but over the next 8
to 12 hours where I think better and have more energy and good chemicals.
Enjoying reading while I am on the treadmill.
Enjoying being in good shape at a low BMI (could be a little lower), all so I can enjoy
life more and be more capable of contributing to others.
Learning about what works for better health
Mind, learning
Learning (with lots of reading) new things that I believe will help me contribute more to
others and/or be more effective for myself and how I run life.
Being tolerant and accepting whatever I screw up or fail in, as just a part of life, a big so
what.
Devising new ways to improve systems, practices, ways of being and thinking - for the
hope of contributing more to others.
Material
Living in a nice home, with my view of the golf course, my great desk and multiple
computers and screens, my great living room office with fireplace and view. (I could
be happy with less, but this is extra nice.)
I appreciate having a magnificent driving machine, convertible (driving in the sun and
wind, the feeling of it)
Financially there is no concern, so I buy what I need and help who I can, can fund a
healthy start to the institute/foundation that is my dream.
Appreciating
I am incredibly appreciating my body and my mind as such gifts and marvelous
machines with which I can do great things.
I appreciate life as a vast buffet of experiences and sweetnesses of life.
I accept that it will end and have no concern about it; I appreciate having has so
many years already.
My view (I enjoy this as a sense of compassion and understanding for my fellow human beings and I enjoy appreciating life and all that is in it.)
I hold no one in a right/wrong, pejorative view.
I resent no one and have no one to forgive (since I don't blame them in the first place)
My competence
I appreciate having learned so much and having developed some great competencies, for being able to think and reason well, to be a synthesizer and solver of problems, to write fairly well, for being able to figure out and understand virtually anything. Although there are some missings, which do have some costs, I accept that as part of the natural limitations of being human and not being able to "do it all" (I trade off what I can do within those limitations, so I am doing mostly what benefits me more.)
THE THINGS I DON'T VALUE - ELIMINATING THEM FROM MY LIFE
Part of living a good life is, of course, not putting garbage into it or even anything that has no value. The latter is part of The Law Of Relevancy (and irrelevancy).
