IF YOU DON'T GET A CLEAR WAKE UP CALL,
YOU'RE NOT LIKELY TO WAKE UP - AND THAT COULD COST YOU YOUR LIFE
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Don't answer the call when it is too late...
I am dying now, too soon. I wish I would've taken care of myself.
I regret so much my not having a good relationship with my children.
I regret working too hard.
I could've had a much, much better life.
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Although the title is addressed to the individual involved, this is also a piece that is directed to all those who can affect this person's life (either in a negative, neutral, or positive way). Most other people tend not to be persuaded that anything more is needed than "to learn from life experienence" - and that is a real crock of nonsense and misunderstanding of how life works - as "life experience" will not "do it to you" or "do it for you" - you are the one who must learn to do it for yourself, that is to "actively manage your life toward what is a truly great, happy life.
as address in the Path Of Life piece, this is harder to obtain clarity on when compared to a similar type of force: Hitting Bottom, which is the traditional "wake up" call that we get in addiction or when we get cancer or a heart attack. This other type of wake up call is more of "cognitive" wake up call, where need to get the person to see something in the distance and the consequences of it. It is a process, starting from a low point of cognition, taking alot of "runs at it" to get it to a high enough level so that the person "gets it"
Factors: write out the consequences make them clear (provide example: if I continue this way, I'll continue to have these problems and these problems will have this effect on me and those whom I care about.
Getting the person to the "starting point" - It may (will probably be?) difficult to get the person fully motivated, but if we can get the person at least motivated for the week or for a little bit of a "try it", then we can figure out other ways to gradually push the boulder over the hill, such as getting a coach who will do further convincing and educating and encouraging...
Role of a coach
See the sad story in the left side bar
and when written "Motivation Mistakes"
WHAT DO I MEAN BY "COST YOU YOUR LIFE"?
If your life is more than just living as a blobbola, barely existing, lying there passively reacting... would that be a good enough life for you? Just being alive, but not experiencing "aliveness" and vitality and intensity and joy and...
If you are down at the lower levels of getting by, I purport that you are not having a life as we define it. Having a life is full of appreciation and satisfaction and life. If one does not have that, I propose that they have lost their lives. If one does not respond to a wake up call to live a better life, that lack of response, I assert, will cost you your (quality) life.
Being alive is not the same as really living...
