FORGIVENESS
AND NEVER HAVING TO FORGIVE
I HAVE NO ONE I NEED TO FORGIVE, IN THE FIRST PLACE
I never have to forgive anyone, for I know that they are always doing the best they know how to. They can never do better than they know how to do. (Duh!) What they know is indicated by what they do.
There is no blame. There is no justified resentment. And almost all anger has no sound basis in reality.
People simply know what they know and it is impossible for them to do better than they know how to do at the time.
Misbehavior (including "evil") is simply about a person trying to do what is best for him/her but not knowing enough to do it in a constructive or beneficial way.
ALL ARE BASED ON VIEWPOINTS THAT DO NOT LINE UP WITH REALITY
Even shame and guilt are artificial constructs, based on a crude punishment and a "make-wrong" concept. (I honor the "feeling" as a way of feedback, but we can note it and then choose to look and decide whether it is valid and/or useful.)
Also, somehow, we humans generalized what we see in each hero image into a set of unrealistic expectations that few, if any, human beings could live into. Then we have judged everything else as being short of that, in an emotional flail of criticism that does no good and only causes harm. See The Effects Of Unrealistic Expectations In Life And In Relationships - A Major Creator Of Unhappiness - Needlessly - We just plain do not understand how humans function and we make ourselves unhappy about them not functioning better - needlessly stressing ourselves.
LEARN THIS WISDOM DEEPLY, IT WILL SERVE YOU FOREVER!
L.S. Barksdale, after a note so happy, but financially successful career and early retirement, spent the rest of his like writing and then providing training materials where people were able to drop former self-criticism habits. As I took it, years ago, I learned to stop criticizing myself (mostly) but also to not blame or feel critical toward others, who were all simply doing the best they could at the time, given the current limits of their awareness. I have since bought all the copyrights and the materials are free via this sister site: (Free) Links To Barksdale Ebooks, PDFs, And Audios - Self-Esteem, Reality, Strength, And Loss Of Fear. I'd recommend studying his materials, all the way through.
I have summarized some of the key ideas here
If you do not forgive people and/or you insist on blame and anger and you retain resentment, you cannot be happy. However, you have the ability to increase your understanding such that you will no longer experience or hold onto those personal toxins.
And, yes, it is true that forgiveness of others (and yourself) by you will free you of a tremendous negative burden!
However, I'd recommend that you carry this all the way: to never blame or resent or make-wrong any person in the first place!
