JUST STOP!   NO MORE!
SAVE YOUR ENERGY AND ATTENTION UNITS


Although a remark or switch of attention seems to take only a moment, it actually takes more time than that - first in the thinking that sets it up and then in switching away from it.  And it takes even more time to switch your mode of thought to be back in tune with what is actually going on.  Training yourself to switch attention often will be the practice that causes you to have attention deficit disorder, at some level, and the lack of ability to concentrate and more forward.

The cost is far greater than you think.  And it deserves your respect - both for your time and for what you want to be the composition of your life!

Save that energy for something better and greater!

This will also free up your awareness, so you catch more of what is going on and are more centered and powerful.  Even turning your head or switching your eyes to an irrelevant passerby breaks attention. 

Obviously it takes a bit of time to improve, but those you are closest to doing these will experience alot more freedom, spare time, and productivity.  For a deeper understanding, see Discussion Of Why Just Stopping Is So Powerful, But Very, Very Quick.

Check off all the ones below that you agree to do.  I've attempted to group the items into categories, with the relevant items in a category box below.  The boxes are:

   Engaging in any negatives
   Making others/self wrong, pejoratively judging
   Deviating, breaking momentum, diverting
   Being scattered and unfocused  
   Time sinks with no payoff, or harmful
   Doing anything with no product
   Not planning, not looking ahead before proceeding




The words below are preceded by "Stop":

 









Engaging in any negatives

Paying any attention to other people's "misbehavior"
      Mistakes
      Rudeness
      Lack of smarts
      Lack of discipline, training
Speaking anything that is not of benefit
Gossiping
Complaining (get to zero as fast as possible!)
Negative conversations, statements (out loud s/b zero, restrict internal severely by interrupting)

Trying to get approval, show off, one up

Being a "look how smart I am and how much I know" person
Giving your opinion (except where solicited, but carefully consider not giving it, gracefully)
Being clever, making remarks to be clever
Teasing (use site search engine)
Trying to impress others (beyond your basic solid presentation of yourself)
Showing how smart you are
Any behavior to "please" others (stay on point)
Feeling obligated or be courteous by continuing a converstaion with no value, esp. w strangers. 

Co-dependency, enabling
Saving any friends and relatives
Giving advice (especially if unsolicited)
Helping too much
Being dependnet on others to do something you could do or develop the ability to do
Leting another be dependent on you, unless disabled and completely unable
Taking care of others in place of them , reading others' mind to sse what they actuall feel or think (&often being wrong or at least irritating

Being a people pleaser or wuss about your time

Allowing others to violate your boundaries
Saying yes so often; say no as often as possible (unless it is high impact and important)
Accepting requests other than the vital few
Trying to control other people outside the important people (and limit that extremely)
Going beyond what works trying to control anyone
Allowing a mood to continue (big time waster)
Being scattered and unfocused

Scattered reading to learn - only do it in systematic program and cumulative, more deeply
Going from interest to interest, diverting for "shiny objects", random attention


Doing anything irrelevant or of low relevance to you
   Politics (never argue or persuade another)
       Consider not voting if it makes no difference
Doing anything not vital to you
   Watching news
   Reading the newspaper
   Reading magazines
   Reading catalogs (except when actually buying)
Doing anything without questioning whether to do it
    Scan books to see if worth reading or which
       parts, skipping the others

Time Savers

Identify your Power Leakd And Then Plug Them!

Checklist for what to not try to control 

This page primarily relates to The Quickest Route To High Life Productivity From Wherever You Are Now, linked to from Books.



On "Free Days", letting go is more appropriate, but even then you want to get the most positive stuff you can from the day. 

Any shoulds

Taking responsibility for others where it is their responsibility, filling in for them when they're off schedule or not doing their responsibilities, let the shoe fall where it may
All rescuing
All overriding of what people say they want, when you think you know better.


Distractions

Any email beyond a 5-15 minute timed (using timer tool) - Assess only what is to be done, assign time to do it, but not right then

Distractions
No computer games
No computer surfing, period!
Doing any off path items from what you are focused on, never violating your "time block"
Doing any item that you think just might, maybe prove interesting, by chance, hope, etc.


Not put away something or do something that can be done in two minutes or less

Contra-energy, contra self

working when tired
Allowing self to be out of whack (not in personal high functioning balance)
eating sugar for energy or taste or refined carbs where will cause boood sugar to rise too high and then crash (createsthe body fighting to correct it, wasting alot of energy and creating not feeling good.
staying up too late (s/b early regular time!)
Drinking alcohol

Time sinks with no payoff, or harmful
Allowing people to be around you who don't support you and/or are not positive influences
Being around any low priority friends, people
   Don't spend any time with them, excuse self
      very quickly, get away, fast!

Doing anything with no "product"

Starting anything you won't finish (harvest), get a result from

Staying in any conversation out of courtesy or feel can't get away.
Doing no payoff items, often harmful

Watching TV (except for valuable parts)

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Make others, self wrong, pejoratively judging

Getting angry (ok only if there is a tiger or attacker)
Blaming
Faulting others or yourself (never a derogatory remark!)
Criticism of others 
             of yourself    
Resenting (and unrealistic expectations)
Negative emotions beyond the initialization/start -
   Either correct the cause or do alternatives to
    interrupt and change, like Instant Energy
Defending
   Justifying
   Reasons why you didn't do something or do it
      well.
   Excuses
Continuing anything at all negative or heated
   (interrupt it!)

Identifying, and stopping, all of these "life-subtracters" will add up to huge time and energy savings.  Spend time ironing these out flat.  It will also upgrade the quality of your life.



People who violate these have low productivity ratings. 

One could also use this as a "prescription pad" for any particular practices that are causing maladies, i.e. to eliminate them!
Not planning, not looking ahead before proceeding

Doing a day without planning!!!
Start anything not screened first or planned
    books
    notes being processed
Not deciding ahead of time the best use of your time!
Trying to get approval, show off, one up
Co-dependency, enabling
Being a people pleaser or wuss about your time
Interfering, controlling or dominating
Disrespecting, cause disrespect/problems
Any shoulds
Distractions
Contra-energy




Deviating, breaking momentum, diverting

Diverting attention to "shiny objects" and/or random items "of interest" (except for times designate for it)
Changing the subject (also rude, irritating...)
Doing side projects instead of more important or in-line projects
Doing something else while you are engaged with a person (no, you can't do both well!)

Accepting calls immediately, without screening, call back shortly if needed), or just taking them and staying on them out of obligation (giving your life away!)

Interfering, controlling, dominating
giving others advice or sympathizing
    esp if it is the same people repeating (few exceptions)
Orchestrating others, taking over, running them or their activities (only make requests & only if needed


interrupting others
persuading others
correcting anyone!

Disrespecting, cause disrespect/problems

arriving late anywhere, esp. disrespecting family

This page primarily relates to The Quickest Route To High Life Productivity From Wherever You Are Now, linked to from Books.
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