THINGS I’D LIKE YOU TO KNOW
ABOUT WORKING WITH ME
Recall that I work with people mainly through written communications, as that is more concrete and more rigorous...and more usable over time, since we have a record of it. This is easier for users of the site than to have calls or in person visits. You are required to do your homework (and shoot me a copy of it) in order to continue the relationship. I do also reserve the right to use the materials for the benefit of others, though it will be cleared of all that might identity you.
If you send individual questions, I will be happy to answer those, though much of the time I can just refer you to one of the 2500+ pieces on the site.
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I DO NOT “JUDGE” PEOPLE FOR WHAT THEY DO (OR SAY).*
I believe that we all do the best we can at the time within the current limits of our awareness. If someone does something that is counter-productive, then the problem is never the person (the receptacle of the knowledge) but the lack of awareness (knowledge). Therefore the solution is to increase the level of awareness!
- We are all, in some regards, in a state of "not yet knowing", but that is not a fault
- it is simply a "not knowing yet". See "Sufficient Knowing".
Blame, shame, guilt, regret – all, except in extreme cases, are inappropriate and falsely created. See There Is No Fault (and no legitimate blame).
I WILL DO MY BEST TO HAVE YOU FEEL SAFE ENOUGH IN THE PROCESS
And to not cross any of your true boundaries.
Nor violate any confidences.
I WILL SUPPORT YOU IN ANYTHING THAT IS HEALTHY AND BENEFICIAL.
As part of that I will not buy into “The Drift”
- “The Drift" is like drifting along in a river whichever way it goes, but in this case it is society's or one's social circle that justifies or "requires" that one do something that is not good for one's physical or emotional well-being or progress in life.
Therefore, I will say something that could feel confrontive, while doing my best to honor the person. But it is not from a critical point of view, but from the point of view of wanting to have you live a better life.
I RECOGNIZE THAT WE ALL HAVE FEARS AND THAT THEY SOMETIMES HOLD US BACK FROM DOING THE RIGHT THING.
I RECOGNIZE THAT WE ALL HAVE “MADE UP” CERTAIN RULES AND CONVERSATIONS THAT MAKE NO SENSE.
And that we often will try to protect those and/or believe they are part of us.
- Which might cause defensiveness.
That boundary will be honored unless permission is given to address it and/or inquire into it to see if the "made-up" serves you well.
I DO NOT TAKE “FEEDBACK” OR QUESTIONING PERSONALLY, AND I ENCOURAGE IT AS PART OF AN OPENNESS IN CONVERSATION.
I BELIEVE AUTHENTIC AND REAL COMMUNICATION WORKS THE BEST IN APPROPRIATE SITUATIONS.
And this is an appropriate situation (as you are seeking such).
I DO ALL THIS “CONSULTING FOR THE BETTERMENT OF MANKIND” STRICTLY FOR THE SATISFACTION OF IT AND NOT FOR MONEY.
I DO NOT ACT AS A PROFESSIONAL COACH OR SPECIALIST IN ANY CERTAIN AREA.
I have an extensive training, reading, and exploration background in "life management" and planning and
- I know, to a great degree, what works and what is a bunch of promises only.
- I am also very capable of synthesizing and rational objective problem solving.
- As such I will act as
- An overall "Assistant To The CEO"* (you) and
- Help get the resources into place to make it all work.
Keith D. Garrick (see About Keith, for specifics and details)
Life Synthesist
Merging business management concepts into running personal lives to produce excellent “life management”.
* Jargon for “chief executive officer”, the one in charge of running the organization. You are running an extensive organization with all sorts of departments, some problem internal 'employees', and many objectives of what you want to produce in life.
* Or for “who they are.” Judging someone else as “bad” or “good” is simply a bunch of nonsense and a waste of energy.
