WHERE AM I ON THE RESPONSIBILITY SCALE?
IT CORRELATES STRONGLY WITH A GOOD LIFE AND WITH SUCCESS
People are often "insulted" when someone says they are not being responsible or are being a victim. However, few of us are at 100% on the responsibility scale, as we slip into child roles, dependency roles, passivity, and such. So, it is not an insult nor is it a judgement of a character default. It is strictly an assessment of where one is on a scale. You are not in the responsibility column until you cannot check off any of the "not responsible" items.
Use the following as a checklist of where you are. Then mark yourself, using your judgment, where you are on the scale and decide what you want to change.
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"I am the captain of my ship and the master of my soul."
I am not being responsible if what happens to me and my reactions are due to "out there" - people, circumstances. They are at cause over me and my life. My life is determined by circumstances and other people, as well as my emotions. They "make me" feel a particular way and they determine my worth in life. They are to blame. They must act according to my wishes, agree with me, and behave the way I expect...
You can tell how responsible a person is by the results in his/her life and his/her success. If a person has repeating problems, it is because they have not been being responsible for solving those problems.
Where are you as far as the results in your life? Are you hypersensitive to "votes" by others out there? Are you self-criticial? Do you feel life a child sometimes around certain people?
What do you need or want to fix that you do that is not responsible?
